Я хочу выразить свою признательность и другим членам семьи — людям, которые поддерживали меня самыми разными способами, те, без кого я не могу представить своего пути. Это мой брат Дик и моя сестра Барб, мои племянницы Андреа, Келли и Джессика, мой племянник Джейсон, внучатые племянницы Микаэла и Мэри, все, кто вошел в нашу семью в качестве супругов, — Барб, Джей, Зак и Майк; сын моего мужа Кевин и вся его семья. Я очень вас люблю.
И наконец, я хочу поблагодарить множество моих клиентов и студентов за огромную честь сопровождать их в этом чудесном путешествии — проработке психической травмы и восстановлении нарушенной связи. Вы мои самые главные учителя. Без вас моя работа была бы просто невозможна. Встреча с каждым из вас вдохновляла и наполняла меня. Спасибо!
Все, кто работает в сфере привязанности, в неоплатном долгу перед теми первопроходцами, которые заложили основу для наших трудов. Также мы очень многим обязаны коллегам, чьи находки пригождаются нам, способствуя продвижению в собственной работе. Если вам интересно узнать больше о надежной привязанности или каких-либо смежных темах, затронутых в данной книге, я очень советую обратиться к списку ниже. В нем перечислены блестящие авторы, исследователи и психотерапевты — большинство из них упоминались в предыдущих главах. Я думаю, совершенно очевидно, что эта книга никогда не была бы написана, если бы не большая работа, проделанная этими замечательными людьми.
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